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Toddlers and Their Stalling Tactics

9/1/2017

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Toddlers are fascinating creatures, aren’t they? Watching them develop into thinking, creative little people is such a fascinating time, and one that parents often wish would last a little longer.
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Of course, they usually wish that after baby’s grown out of the toddler stage, because along with that creativity and new found intelligence, we usually see a lot of boundary-testing, which can be a frustrating experience.
When I have my initial consultations with the parents of a toddler, there's usually some kids of amusing story surrounding bedtime. They'll tell me, sometimes a little sheepishly, about how their little one gets seven stories a night, it started with one, then two and three, and then they usually ask for a glass of milk that they’ll only drink a few sips of, then they want to say goodnight in a very specific, drawn-out way, and the parents will end up looking at each other wondering how on earth they got to this point. And it always happens the same way... a little bit at a time.

Toddlers love to test boundaries, and they know that the one thing you want from them at bedtime is for them to go to sleep, so they’ll use that to their advantage. I know it sounds a little diabolical, but it’s their way of seeing where your boundaries lie and how much authority they actually have.

So one night they ask for a glass of milk, and the parents think, “What’s the harm?” The next night, they ask for a glass of milk and an extra story. A week later, they want a glass of milk, an extra story, and three hugs and two goodnight kisses. Little by little, these crazy bedtime routines get established, I have been in this situation many a time with both of mine. 
So there’s a simple, two step solution to this issue.

1.    Establish a short bedtime routine.
2.    Never deviate from it. 

That’s it. It’s that simple. I won’t kid you, sticking to the rules can be a challenge, because they’re going to ask, test and complain, but if you stick to your guns, they’ll understand sooner rather than later that the bedtime routine is not up for debate.

This benefits both of you, in spite of the fact that your little one might not agree. Toddlers take a great amount of comfort in knowing that you, the parent, are firmly in charge and are confident in your decisions. It gives them a sense of security. If you start allowing them to make the decisions, they actually start to feel like they’re in charge, and that feeling that Mum knows what she’s doing starts to fade.

Additionally, a predictable, repetitive bedtime routine is greatly conducive to a good night’s sleep. It signals the brain to start secreting melatonin and signals the body to start relaxing muscles in preparation for a restful, relaxing snooze.
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And, if you want a little help check out my bedtime tool kit – perfect for toddlers
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    ​Nadia Edwards is a Certified and Holistic Baby Sleep Coach and uses approaches which are based around a parenting by connection concept and draws on her training with Hand in Hand Parenting, her work as a Relax Kids coach, Early Years Practitoner and training with the National Childbirth Trust (NCT) on Breastfeeding Counselling and Postnatal Care. Nadia also holds a UK degree level qualification in advanced sleep coaching accredited by OCN London at level 5. 

    ​Nadia lives if Fife, Scotland and loves helping babies sleep well. She offers personal in-home consultations along with video for families further afield, Nadia has worked with families all over the UK and Europe

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