Self-esteem can be very tenuous. As parents, when our children fail it is easy to feel their sadness and try and take it away or compensate for it.
However learning and growing from the failures builds greater confidence and self-esteem, it takes practice, but the results are well worth the time and effort.
Stronger confidence benefits you in every area of your life.
Using these strategies will help you and your children develop greater confidence
1. Learn from mistakes and failure.
It’s okay to fail. Failing is part of the learning process. This improves decision-making skills, enables one to think through long-term results of their choices, and accept feedback about their mistakes without feeling like a personal failure.
2. See mistakes and failures as tools for success.
Confidence comes from learning to trust our instincts, skills, and abilities. It is gained over time through both success and failure. It requires taking risks and dealing with consequences.
3. Never stop learning. Parents are teachers.
Your job is to prepare your child to be a successful young adult. It starts day one and never ends. You are not always going to get it right - nobody does.
4. Think positive thoughts about yourself.
If you struggle with low self-esteem, it’s important that you get help with that. Seek out a therapist if you need to. Your behaviour and how you treat yourself is what your child absorbs.
5. Learn to let it go.
Move forward after you discuss lessons learned - yours and your child’s. It is information that you will use to calculate choices in the future.
Practice these techniques daily with your children. The more you practice, the easier these behaviours become. Once they become a habit, you and your children are well on the path to having an automatic process that supports greater confidence and self-esteem each day.