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How To Keep Your Baby Awake For The Bedtime Feed?

3/12/2018

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A question I get a lot when working with families, I've been working through your suggestions for about a week now, but I'm having a really hard time keeping my baby awake through her feed at the bedtime routine. What can I do?"
Well, that's a great question. Really, when you're working with me, the number one rule is to make sure that you keep your baby wide awake through any feeds. That's the breast or the bottle.

Nine times out of 10, the problem is all around the sleep prop of getting to sleep on a bottle or a breast. And although I wish this didn't cause a problem it does, and I find if you don't break the connection baby has between feeding and sleep, it'll make the whole process harder.

It will result night wake ups because when baby wakes up in the night, she'll still have this idea that she needs a feed in order to get back to sleep at night.

A few things you can try.

Number one: would be move the feed up in the bedtime routine. Most people have the feed as the last step.

That can be really tricky. Especially, if baby is not napping great yet, then she could be really, really fatigued by bedtime. By the time, she's had a bath, and you've got jammies on, and you've read some stories, and then you're going into a feed, she might be way too fatigued to even attempt to stay awake at the feed.  

Then you're really fighting an uphill battle where you're tickling and talking to her and trying to keep her awake, and she's so tired she really can't even help you out any. I would suggest you can even move it up to before the bath for babies older than 4 months.  

So something like this...

Feed, then the
Bath and then
Jammies and then 
Stories, and then 
Bed.

That will really help break any connection that she needs to feed to get to sleep or that feeding  has anything to do with sleep.

If that seems like a bit too far up in the routine for example you have a very young baby under 4 months, then move it to right after bath. That can really help, too, because children tend to be a little stimulated from the bath. Most children really like their bath, so she'll be a little more awake when you get to the feed.

Then you can move into the next steps. The good news is the better naps start going, the less fatigued she'll be by bedtime, so that's something to look forward to.

The more the separation between feeding and sleep develops, the less likely she will be to even try to fall asleep while this is happening. You'll find in a month or so, even if she is really tired, she won't use feeding as her way of getting to sleep.

There won't be a connection there anymore. She'll happily have her feed, and then put herself to sleep just fine when she gets to the cot.

​And like I always say, you often need to make this change with other changes and if you'd like help with putting any of my suggestion into practice check out my sleep packages. 

​Remember by changing nothing, nothing changes. 

4 Comments
Rachel
3/13/2018 09:10:08

You reccomend that a baby over 4 months has their feed at the start of their bedtime routine. Feed, bath, story, bed.

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Wendy
3/13/2018 20:07:37

Feed at the start of the bedtime routine for babies over 4 months old.

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Nadia Edwards
3/20/2018 13:32:28

Hello Wendy - you are the winner. x

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Wendy
3/21/2018 22:12:22

Thank you so much Nadia! X




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    ​Nadia Edwards is a Certified and Holistic Baby Sleep Coach and uses approaches which are based around a parenting by connection concept and draws on her training with Hand in Hand Parenting, her work as a Relax Kids coach, Early Years Practitoner and training with the National Childbirth Trust (NCT) on Breastfeeding Counselling and Postnatal Care. Nadia also holds a UK degree level qualification in advanced sleep coaching accredited by OCN London at level 5. 

    ​Nadia lives if Fife, Scotland and loves helping babies sleep well. She offers personal in-home consultations along with video for families further afield, Nadia has worked with families all over the UK and Europe

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